Interesting book but not terribly insightful. I will always be appreciative of Miller's focus on childhood drama and trauma, but I did not learn much from this particular book. I do like the term "emotional blindness", however, and like Miller's emphasis on emotional insight as a prerequisite for overcoming childhood abuse. The real key term for me, and I don't believe Miller uses it, is the concept of a paradigm shift. From shaming and blaming to personal freedom and self assertion: this is facilitated by addressing the child's conception of the cause of the abuse. It, the badness, is not in the child but experienced by the child. As adults, the emphasis should be on reconstructing the meaning of past trauma as it was perceived by the child at the time. I differ from Miller on her preference for not using antidepressants in severe cases. The medication could facilitate the healing process and thus make insight more tolerable.